Language matters. How you express yourself impacts how you
feel and how you make others feel. Some simple changes can help you accentuate
the positive and make it easier for other people to support you too.
One of my wisest friends, who committed suicide because of
child abuse once told me, “Never ask a guy if you look fat in something.
Instead, focus on the positive. Ask him “Doesn’t this dress make my eyes look
fabulous?”
Her point was that if you ask for negative, you are probably
going to get a negative back. Because even if someone doesn’t want to insult
you – you phrasing your input needs in the negative forces the response to
respond to the negative, even if the person trying to make you feel wants to
help.
