What should I do if I feel my dignity is violated

 Whenever I do a presentation on how to stop bullies and I introduce the concept of dignity - I get asked - what should I do if I feel my dignity has been violated. This comes up a lot in my programs on civility and how to use dignity to create civility. 

The first thing to understand about dignity is - that no one can take away your dignity.  You may have your feeling hurts - and that is valid. But you - and you alone - are in charge of your dignity. 

Second. Acknowledge your feelings. You feel hurt. That's ok. 

Third - acknowledge to yourself - your dignity AND the dignity of the other person. Even if they don't acknowledge your dignity - doesn't mean you shouldn't acknowledge theirs. 

Fourth - Understand that the other person probably feels their dignity has been violated and they are trying to protect themselves.

Fifth - Focus on healing the hurt that both you and the other person feel. It is not necessary to win a - my hurt is worse than your hurt competition. Just - focus on healing both yourself and them. And work on building trust.

This - usually is enough to reset relationships and start building the trust that is required for positive relationships to happen. You - stop being a threat - the other person stops treating you as a threat.  Eventually - you can collaborate on solutions that work for both of you.

Every once in a while  - you will encounter someone this doesn't work with - but don't assume this won't work until you try it. 

If you want to learn more - take my course on a humanistic approach to civility and using dignity as a tool to create civility. https://humanistlearning.com/a-humanistic-approach-to-civility/

Training Remote Employees

 Question: Can we integrate regular training for remote employees?

Answer: Yes

I offer online and hybrid training programs and host monthly live virtual programs for the International Humanistic Management Association.

Remote employees – as long as they have connections to an internet – it’s actually easier to integrate monthly learning – into their workload. Easier than It is to do this for in person employees.

A monthly 1 hour learning program on whatever topic – makes continuous education a norm for their experience.    I like to do this in what is known as a flipped way.

I have the participants either read something or review a video lesson and then our 1 hour together – is spent discussing application. 

There are online learning systems that allow you to upload content and track employee participation in the program and ensure they have learned what they are supposed to learn.

Or – you can hire someone like me – to help you do this. 

Visit my website for more information: https://humanistlearning.com/

Humanism in 12 languages


The Center for Education offers their10 Humanist Commitments art free to use and share. And the best part about it - the art comes in 12 different languages. 

Like Korean - below. 

If you have wanted to explain Humanism to others and want to cross language barriers - feel free to visit their excellent website - and download and share. 

What personal development/certifications should HR professionals (new managers) take advantage of?

I offer online certificate programs that are useful to HR professionals.  In addition to my certificate – the online programs are approved for CE for HRCI and SHRM and some for the CA and FL Bar for CLE.

The first is a ~10 hour certificate program in Humanistic Conflict Management


The hardest part of management is dealing with the interpersonal problems that arise. This program will teach you how to effectively, ethically and compassionately deal with conflict while still being professional.

Upon completion you will receive a certificate in Humanistic Conflict Management and may refer to yourself as a humanistic conflict management professional

The next is an 8 hour Certificate Program in Applied Humanistic Leadership


Learn how to be a more authentic and effective leader who is both powerfully ethical and armed with the technical skills required to master whatever challenges you face with grace and dignity.

Finally – I have a 16 hour program for Certified Humanistic Leadership Professionals


Upon completion you will receive a certificate stating you are a certified Humanistic Leadership Professional.

Hope this helps.

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