So, what is my advice on how to make a marriage work? Well, first, don’t think of it as work. Thinking about all the reasons why you love your spouse shouldn’t be a chore. Get in the habit of appreciating your spouse every day. It will help you treat them better and it really isn’t that hard to do. In fact, you will probably find that it is fun to think about all of the reasons why you should appreciate. It feels good to do it.
The mistake I think people make is that over time, they forget to do this and they start taking their spouse for granted. Don’t take yours for granted. Appreciate them for the wonderful person they are (I assume they are wonderful or you wouldn’t have married them in the first place) and make sure to thank them for being in your life every day.
I agree. The moment you take your relationship for granted is the moment when you start adding too much fat into your daily lives. It's always healthy to take time out for each other often. That way love and admiration can blossom, and things won't become monotonous.
ReplyDeleteAnd, if things get heated, don't let the heat of the argument take over your rationalization. Take some time apart to cool down, and then sit together and talk things through calmly. If things heat up again, just remove yourselves once more. If you both feel that you can be around each other, it's great to take some time together and go out with the ground rules of not bringing up the problems that you were discussing.